Question: “Hey Nick, how are you? Nick I think we are alike in many ways, I also gave up and detached from almost all material things, information, knowledge, beliefs, dreams, illusions, programs, souvenirs, etc.., And you surrendered to the Holy Spirit and I to God (same). I say that I am almost detached because I’m still working in a place I don’t like where there is no love with my wife, where I still do not know what my true talents are, although I am still asleep it still hurts and I still suffer. I’m still reading your book and has much resemblance to the philosophy of Ho’oponopono (which is really true, ¿right Nick?) I’m telling you because Ho’oponopono and a Course in Miracles and serve the same purpose (awakening from illusions, from this dream, there are no idols in Ho’oponopono) Write when you can and that the Holy Spirit or God will continue to guide I inspire you, blessings Nick! ”
Comment: Well, before sharing my comments, you say, “... I’m still reading your book and has much resemblance to the philosophy of Ho”oponopono .. ” Yes, the course has many similarities with Ho’oponopono until the ego began using the Ho’oponopono and became another tool to try to make changes in the world which distorts the original message of Ho’oponopono, which is to heal the mind and not the form (illusions); heal the cause which is responsible for the world we see (projection) so that we can awaken from the dream. As I shared in my book What Happens When You Let God:
“Before elaborating on how I apply the process, and to show you how The Course is just one path out of many, I am going to briefly share about a healing modality from Hawaii called Ho’oponopono, which means to make right, just to demonstrate how it compares to the teachings of The Course if used within The Course’s context. The reason I mentioned if used within The Course’s context is because many traditions operate from the belief that the world is real. Although I am not suggesting that is what Ho’oponopono believes, that is the place where most healers and practitioners of different healing modalities appear to be coming from. They see the world of effects (illusions) and use their healing mantras or tools to attempt to fix what their eyes seem to see. The Course on the other hand, is always operating at the level of cause, from the level of the mind. It is not concerned with what we see because The Course clearly states that what we see with our physical eyes are illusions.
“So without deviating from the teachings of The Course, let’s see how Ho’oponopono could be employed as a tool for awakening. According to their practice, the words they use as their healing mantra are:
I love you
Please forgive me
If I use those words within the context of what The Course teaches, the intention behind them would yield the same results. For example;
Ho’oponopono: I love you
ACIM: I love you because you and I are one
Ho’oponopono: I’m sorry
ACIM: I am sorry for having judged you
Ho’oponopono: Please forgive me
ACIM: Please forgive me for having projected you or I forgive myself for having projected you
Ho’oponopono: Thank you
ACIM: Thank you for letting me see what needs to be healed within me so that the Holy Spirit can correct it.”
Continuing now with your question, when you say, ”…I also gave up and detached from almost all material things, information, knowledge, beliefs, dreams, illusions, programs, souvenirs, etc.., And you surrendered to the Holy Spirit and I to God (same)…” Well, I do not know if it was me the one who truly let go, but I felt inspired to seek the guidance of the Holy Spirit through the pursuit of inner peace, and that’s how I found myself letting go of most of my attachments.
But the thing was, it all began to happen naturally and gradually. Even when I was looking for that inner peace, I realized that I still had attachments. However, as I already mentioned, I was not the one who let go of them, I simply offered my attachments to the Holy Spirit so that He can helps me detach myself from them, and as a result, the detachment did not feel like sacrifice.
When we are not ready to detach psychologically from an illusion, what the Holy Spirit does is, He first helps us look at it differently (correction of perception) and then we find ourselves naturally experiencing detachment from whatever it is we were attached to. That’s how gentle the Holy Spirit is. But we, however, have to be willing to offer to him our attachments, our illusions. That’s why this process seems so hard, because we think we want to let go, when in reality, we want an exchange of illusions. For example, if you find yourself arguing or attacking someone, even if you have studied and even taught A Course in Miracles for many years, it is because at a much deeper level, you truly want your drama over your peace. And therefore the ego will remain intact. It’s really that simple! That’s why we have to be very vigilant.
Yes, I would say that when I let go of all the books I had read and all that information from the world of self-help, that’s when I was finally ready to hear the Voice from the heart of the Holy Spirit because in truth, what I was doing was setting all distractions aside. But again, that was my process. I’m not here to make any suggestions.
Obviously, I am still experiencing attachments just that at a much deeper level, however, I grabbed them at the moment, therefore finding it much easier to let them go. That’s really how you know if you are advancing on this spiritual journey. Yes, your level of peace is the ultimate barometer, but when you can catch the ego at the starting point without letting him take on speed, that’s how you know that you are truly doing the work because that is where you can choose again the right mind. Otherwise, once the ego pick up speed, it is very hard to stop it.
Using the very same example, if you feel bothered by someone, or feel like having an argument, obviously the reason is because of your attachment to your opinion. But if at that moment you catch yourself, because from the heart you want the peace of God, and here is the key, from the heart, all you want is the peace of God, you have another opportunity to choose again. In that choosing again, all the Holy Spirit is going to teach is how valueless our opinions, ideas and beliefs are so that we no longer have to defend them, and the result is peace.
That’s why the course reminds me, “I want the peace of God: To say these words is nothing. But to mean these words is everything. If you could but mean them for just an instant, there would be no further sorrow possible for you in any form; in any place or time.” W-pI.185.1:1-3 Then it goes on to say, “To mean you want the peace of God is to renounce all dreams (beliefs, opinions, ideas, concepts, everything we’ve learned, everything we have taught and we’ve been taught, in other words, everything that our physical senses can see, hear, touch, smell, perceive, imagined, EVERYTHING!). For no one means these words who wants illusions, and who therefore seeks the means which bring illusions.” W-pI.185.5:1-2 ¿Can you honestly say that you are truly willing to do that? ;o)
That’s why one of the most overlooked paragraphs, and yet, probably the most clear and important of the course is: “Simply do this: Be still, and lay aside all thoughts of what you are and what God is; all concepts you have learned about the world; all images you hold about yourself. Empty your mind of everything it thinks is either true or false, or good or bad, of every thought it judges worthy, and all the ideas of which it is ashamed. Hold onto nothing. Do not bring with you one thought the past has taught, nor one belief you ever learned before from anything. Forget this world, forget this course, and come with wholly empty hands unto your God.” W-pI.189.7:1-5
Continuing now with your question, when you say, “…I say that I am almost detached because I’m still working in a place I don’t like where there is no love with my wife, where I still do not know what my true talents are, although I am still asleep it still hurts and I still suffer...” Let’s look at your comment a little closer because it seems to me that you are confusing form with content. Your job, as your wife and your personal circumstances, are all neutral. They don’t have the power to affect you. What affects you is the teacher with whom you are looking at your live experiences, the story you have in your mind about your circumstances. The ego makes up a story, the Holy Spirit liberates you from it, not by replacing it, for that is self help stuff, but by liberating you from it. It’s a bit different.
These circumstances, or rather, projections, can be used for completely opposite purposes. If you see them with the ego they will serve its purpose, which is the perpetuation of fear in your mind, but if you see them with the Holy Spirit your projections will serve another.
As the course reminds us, “The ego has a purpose, just as the Holy Spirit has. The ego’s purpose is fear, because only the fearful can be egotistic. The ego’s logic is as impeccable as that of the Holy Spirit, because your mind has the means at its disposal to side with Heaven or earth, as it elects. But again, remember that both are in you. … We have learned, however, that there is an alternative to projection. Every ability of the ego has a better use, because its abilities are directed by the mind, which has a better Voice. The Holy Spirit extends and the ego projects. As their goals are opposed, so is the result.” T- 5.V.1 :2-5 .. T-6.II.4 :1-4
The first thing I have learned is to recognize that wherever I am, that’s where I’m supposed to be. And if I look at that experience with the Holy Spirit I can use it to heal through letting Him teach me how to perceive love and innocence in all things, remembering that any judgment (attack) is a judgment against me, and what I love is a recognition of what I am.
“The Holy Spirit begins by perceiving you as perfect. Knowing this perfection is shared He recognizes it in others, thus strengthening it in both. Instead of anger this arouses love for both, because it establishes inclusion.” T-6.II.5 :1-3
That obviously does not mean I should stay in a situation that for lack of a better word is not healthy or positive (I know these words are judgments but in this world of illusions are the words I can use to convey this message), but while choosing the peace of the Holy Spirit, I can choose to remove myself from any situation. But if for some reason I can not remove myself from a particular situation, then I do not resist anything, for I understand that that is the perfect curriculum for my learning, always remembering what the course says, “All things work together for good. There are no exceptions except in the ego’s judgment.” T-4.V.1 :1-2
When we are dominated by the ego’s thought system, we only see, or I should say, perceive fear, judgment, terror, and we don’t know how to get out of whatever experience we seem to be trapped in, because as the course reminds us, “When you have been caught in the world of perception you are caught in a dream. You cannot escape without help, because everything your senses show merely witnesses to the reality of the dream. “ Preface
In your case, you’re so trapped in your apparent circumstances, or as I said, your perception of them, that you can not see another way out. However, there is another way of looking at things; another way to perceive, which is the same as to say, there is another way out.
But you are not the one who teaches yourself how to get out of anything as the course reminds us, “You cannot be your guide to miracles, for it is you who made them necessary.” T-14.XI.7:1 It is your right mind that can set you free. And that’s why when you do not resist anything, and choose inner peace, a change in perception takes place. This change in perception all it does is uses the same illusions that the ego employs to perpetuate fear in your mind to recognize the innocence and love in everything.
That innocence is your innocence, only that has been covered by a veil of unconscious guilt that is being projected outwards by your fearful mind, and now it is the excuse the ego uses to justify your anger, your fear, your suffering. But beware, I’m not suggesting that you are guilty or anything like that. It’s just a recognition that nothing is happening outside but inside for everything is a projection. That’s why the course reminds us, “I am not the victim of the world I see.” W-pI.31
However, having said that, there is only one solution, the choice of inner peace which is the same as to say, to choose again, or to practice forgiveness. In my case, while I was writing my book, I did not even know what was going on with my life. I was lost and confused, and yet, I learned through the practice of choosing internal peace, that during those three or four years, and obviously the rest of this illusory life, each and every one of my experiences have served and will serve a purpose, the only purpose that there is, forgiveness.
Back to your question, if you keep complaining about your experiences, you’re not letting the Holy Spirit teach you. That does not mean you have to stay in uncomfortable circumstances as I mentioned earlier, but you have to take full responsibility for your projections and your experiences, for you are only given the opportunity to undo the internal guilt by choosing the thought system of the Holy Spirit.
That’s why the projections are there, NOT to be fixed, for there is nothing to fix. You are not seeking a change in circumstances (effects, form, world) but a change of mind (cause, content, mind). “Therefore, seek not to change the world, but choose to change your mind about the world.” T-21.in.1:7
Remember that the Holy Spirit does not share the thought system of the ego (illusions). If anything, all the Holy Spirit is teaching you is not to take this world seriously. As the course reminds us, “He bids you bring each terrible effect to Him that you may look together on its foolish cause and laugh with Him a while. You judge effects, but He has judged their cause. And by His judgment are effects removed.” T-27.VIII.9:3-5
Your whole problem, which is everyone’s problem, mine too for my whole life, and even after being sharing A Course in Miracles, aside from the fact that the only problem which is illusory is that we think we are separate from God, but is that you have taken your experiences seriously, and now, instead becoming a happy learner you are now resisting your experiences making it difficult for you to let them go and to be taught.
Remember that once something is healed in the mind, no longer needs to be projected. But we have to be WILLING to look at our fears, and judgments with the Holy Spirit so that He can remove the cause, for as the course reminds us again, You judge effects, but He has judged their cause. And by His judgment are effects removed.” T-27.VIII.9:5
Keep also in mind, that this course is not about exchanging illusions for more pleasant ones, but to undo our false sense of self, and now we use our illusions to recognize our innocence in everyone and everything, so that the mind can heal and can be reverted to its natural state, peace, love.
Once your mind is filled with peace and love, ¿does it matter what you do in the world or who you are with, or what anyone does? Because whatever it is that you end up doing, being with, or watching others doing, you’ll be at peace and filled with love. And that’s the true meaning of the happy dream! But like everything, it takes practice. Just remember, “The way is not hard, but it is different.” T-11.III.4
All I can say is this, you are exactly where you need to be, as we are all exactly where need to be for if we needed to be somewhere else, that’s where we would be.
The question now is, ¿with whom you want to look at your experiences, with the ego, which is nothing but a believe in order to continue perpetuating the belief in separation in your mind, or with the Holy Spirit so that He can teach you how to awaken from this dream?
That’s the only freewill you truly have.